Flower Basket

Is it okay to send flowers to my Mom after the funeral?

My mothers husband died really suddenly and it hit all of us really hard. Me and my husband had to drive 7 hours for the funeral yesterday and we never did get a chance to get flowers sent. I know my mom understands, but now she is on her way home today (he was buried in a family cematary 2 hours from her home) and I wanted to send her some flowers this week with maybe a fruit basket. Is that okay or is that to wierd or inappropriate?

Public Comments

1. No, it's very kind. Send with it a letter letting her know that she is in your thoughts and how much you love her. It is important that she not feel forgotten, and this will do that job quite thoughtfully. Btw, all those flowers at the funeral home were NOT for her, they were in honor of the deceased. Having somebody pay a little extra attention to her now that she is all alone is a thoughtful gesture.
2. Please don't send flowers, I'm sure she has seen enough of flowers for a while. The fruit basket is ok. A donation is also proper. If they were members of a church you could donate some hymnals in his name (I often do that and get 5 Hymnals for about $100, the same as flowers). The church puts a card on the front page saying who this hymnal was donated in honor of. Or other donations usually are appreciated, if he had a charity he likes, or some other appropriate place (hospital, orphanage, care-home, etc.)
3. It is okay. You should also call and see how she is doing. She likely needs to talk to someone.
4. I think it's too late to send her flowers. But she might appreciate a beautiful "dish garden" of various house plants, from a florist. Instead of fading within a week, such plants will live for a long time. A loving letter of condolence, mentioning some of the happy memories that you've formed over the years, would also be of great comfort to her. She'll get plenty of cards, but a handwritten letter from you will be something she can treasure. If you have any photos of her husband, she'd probably appreciate copies of those as well. A good photo shop can help with that, if you don't want to give up your originals.
5. No.It is a lovely thing to do. Write a note how much you love her and sadden for her loss. You are always there for her.
6. No, it's not weird. It's a kind gesture and it will make her smile. I'd defintely do it if I were you.
7. No it's not weird or inappropriate at all. Although you might want to consider sending her money. Tell her, because you did not have the time to send flowers, you're sending money for her to use for expenses she may have incurred during the funeral, etc. My condolences to you and your family.
8. It's ok to send your mother a gift anytime.
9. Not at all. A lot of times people get overwhelmed with cards and phone calls during all of the chaos before the funeral and then during, but then afterwards, everyone goes back to their lives while the loved ones are still grieving and they often feel forgotten. Sending them afterwards will allow your mother to know that there is someone who is still thinking of her. When I lost my mother, everyone said, if you need anything at all please let me know, but none of them were around after it was all said and done. I felt so alone. Your mom will appreciate the kind gesture. I'm sorry for your loss.
10. I think the gesture would be appreciated.